Posts Tagged workout frustration
Break Down….
Posted by Matt Hoover in General on June 21st, 2010
After last week, I feel a little bad to report that life isn’t a big bowl of cherries here at The Biggest Loser Resort today. It was a rough day and it all started with a genuine compliment from someone.
What are you talking about Matt? How can a compliment mess up your day? Let me explain. Last night I didn’t sleep well. I can tell I am losing weight and my body has changed a lot in the past week. I was actually worried that someone might say something today and someone did.
The reason I struggled with this is because for some reason when people tell me I am looking good or that they can tell I am losing weight, I almost always take a day off and go eat. The day turns into two and often turns into a week until I am back where I Started.
I don’t know why, but it seems like a positive comment from someone gives me permission to slack off. Rather than going out and feeding my face, I stopped into the office of one of the staff here at Fitness Ridge. As I told her what happened and how I reacted, I realized how out of line my thinking was. Rather than appreciating the fact that someone was recognizing my hard work, I was trying to make it harder on myself.
I set a goal for the day to stick to the nutrition plan and finish all my workouts. I did that. Now at the end of the day, I sit here and realize that if I am going to have long term and lasting results, I have got to change the way I see myself and more importantly the way I talk to myself.
Unless I am willing to accept praise and appreciate the work I am doing today I am always going to go right back to where I started. Things, especially weight loss, don’t have to always be hard. I have been making it hard on myself by feeling like I have to be in constant struggle in order to being doing a good job.
These thoughts have led me to struggle in other areas that I don’t need to struggle in as well. Today I finally recognized them and on top of that, I verbalized them. I made it through the day and feel that I will pick up where I left off last week tomorrow.
The focus this week. Change the way I talk to myself. I am worth it and don’t have to make things difficult on myself in order to acheive success. As one of the trainers said today, “Don’t let the only person standing in the way of your success be YOU!” Great advice at a great time.
See you tomorrow!
Takin My Own Advice….
Posted by Matt Hoover in General on February 10th, 2010
Have you ever just wanted to kick yourself for not listening to yourself? I know I have. In fact, as a speaker I have been telling other people the keys to being fit. I am going to admit that sometimes the hardest person to motivate is myself.
I bet I am not alone. I see people every year come off The Biggest Loser vowing never to gain weight back or put all their weight back on. Guess what, every year someone who said those words in front of millions inevitably does the exact thing they said they wouldn’t.
I’ve experienced it myself. I gained weight after the show. I am talking about weight beyond the simple act of re hydrating after cutting weight for the finale. In fact, I got myself fat again. I believe a lot of it had to do with focusing so hard on not gaining weight again.
Let me explain what I mean. I have found in my own life that what I focus on is what I get. More specifically, the way I speak internally almost always manifests itself. Did you know that studies have shown that our subconscience is not capable of interpreting negative words? If I say “Don’t eat that brownie.” My subconscious mind hears “Eat that brownie.” It has been proven over and over that no matter how many times we put a negative word in front of a comment to our self we don’t hear it.
When it comes to weight gain I have found that the more I focus on what I don’t want to do the more I am drawn to it. “Don’t eat too much.” is a signal to my brain to go for it. ”Don’t sleep in tomorrow.” almost always lead to extra time in bed.
Positive phrases yield positive results. ” I want to eat lean meats and veggies and drink more water.” leads me to crave those things. Our brains are like giant computers that need to have data input manually. The type of data we put in is the type of results we get. Make sense?
To be successful we need to be constantly feeding ourselves positive input. Leave off the negatives when you talk to yourself and see what happens in your own life. I am going to set a goal to do this for one week. I hope you will join me and I will revisit this topic next week. Let’s see what happens when we listen to our own positive advice!
See you tomorrow!
In Defense of Erik Chopin…..Season 3 Biggest Loser
Posted by Matt Hoover in General on January 19th, 2010
I don’t want to count calories! I don’t like to count calories! I have to count calories! It has finally sunken in that I am not blessed with a body that allows me to work out and then eat anything I want. It is no secret that I have struggled with my weight since winning The Biggest Loser. I want to talk about it today.
With all the controversy as of late about The Biggest Loser I have decided to give my two cents. Many people who follow the Biggest Loser also tuned in to see the Discovery channel special on Erik Chopin, the winner of season 3, who has put back on a good chunk of his weight that he lost on the show. After reading some of the comments that people were writing about his episode I felt it necessary to talk about a few things.
One of the things that I saw over and over was a pretty nasty comment about how he wasted his opportunity and it was especially disgraceful since he won money. First, he didn’t waste his opportunity. He won the show! I want people to understand that being on The Biggest Loser and losing weight in that environment is completely different than doing it in the real world.
People, including myself, get the results they do because the only thing they have to do is work on losing weight. They don’t have to go to work, or take care of their kids, they only have one thing to do and that is lose weight. When I was on the ranch there was no television, no internet, no magazines, no phone calls, in essence no distractions. ANY person in that environment can lose that kind of weight.
Here is the thing about being on the show. I have never been to prison, but I imagine that coming home from BL is a little like being released from prison. Although one may go through a serious transformation and may see the error of their ways, the minute they leave that structured and regimented environment, they are faced with many of the same temptations they faced before they went in. Even though the individual may have undergone a significant transformation both physically and mentally while away, they are returning home to people who may not have done any changing.
The thing about being on the show is that after you come home you are still working toward the goal of winning the cash prize at the finale. To use the prison analogy, you are on probation upon release. But what happens when you get off probation, in effect step on the scale for the last time? Many criminals tend to go back to their old ways. On The Biggest Loser, many begin to think that their struggle with weight is over, that they are rehabilitated. I did!
There is certain euphoria that comes with winning a reality show and all of the sudden becoming a “celebrity”. For a while that euphoria seems to be enough to help you want to stay on track, you are eager to show people how great you are doing since being on the show. After a while the cameras fade and real life sets in. It is at that time that a few past winners began to lose focus.
For me, the thinking was like this. “At least I’ve kept off 120 pounds… at least I’ve kept off 110… at least I’ve kept off…” It is a vicious pattern because after losing so much weight I kind of felt like I deserved to gain a little weight. That right there was a problem in my thinking. I was setting myself up to gain weight again and I did.
I am going to spend the rest of this week sharing my thoughts on this and what life is like for a “weight loss celebrity”
See you tomorrow!
Get Back Up!
Posted by Matt Hoover in General on December 22nd, 2009
A couple of days ago I was at wrestling practice. I have been working with some high level athletes after being away from competition for a while so I was a little timid. My biggest concern was how my body would hold up.
During a live match I got thrown hard. I landed hard and I layed there for a second and thought about what had just happened to me. I realized that I wasn’t hurt and the landing didn’t hurt as much I had thought it would.
I continued wrestling and a short time later I got tossed on my head again. This time it didn’t phase me. I got back up again, made some adjustments and didn’t get thrown again the rest of the practice.
After practice I was sitting down and I got to thinking about what happened during that workout and what I could take away from it.
That is when I realized just how significant those two crash landings were. Prior to getting thrown I was worried about what it was going to be like when I did get tossed. Would I get hurt? What part of my body would get hurt? How long would I be out for when I did get hurt. I built it up in my mind that getting thrown, which was inevitable, was going to be a terrible experience.
The crazy thing was that it didn’t hurt as bad as I thought and wasn’t nearly as traumatic as I had built it up to be. The second time it didn’t even phase me and after the second time I was able to make some adjustments to keep it from happening again.
On my drive home I thought about how I could relate this lesson to people in their everyday life. Here goes. I think many of us have faced times in our lives when we were feeling a little intimidated by a situation. Perhaps we were timid and afraid to go full blast into a situation because we were worried about what might or might not happen. We hold back because we are afraid that the consequences of committing whole-heartedly may hurt.
For some people, when they do face adversity; like taking a fall for example, they lay there and think about how bad they hurt. Unfortunately, a lot of people will lay there focusing on the pain instead of getting up and going back for more.
On the other hand, if that same person simply took a moment to process what just happened, realized that it really wasn’t that bad, and then got back up and started again, they could then begin to see progress.
It is very possible that they may get tossed around again, but after having already experiencing what it feels like to fall and get back up again, it is more likely that they won’t focus on the pain and will begin to make adjustments so that it doesn’t continue to happen over and over.
I guess the short summary of what I am trying to say is this. We all take a fall now and then. In those moments it is easy to lay there and think about how much it hurt and how much easier it would be to stay down. In those times it is important to get back up and take the chance of getting knocked down again and possibly again. Only when you get back up can you learn from what just happened and what changes we need to make to keep whatever it was from happening again.
When things get tough, we are much better served by looking at what we can learn from the experience rather than focusing on how much we hurt.
Wake Up!
Posted by Matt Hoover in General on December 17th, 2009
The alarm clock buzzed at 5:30 this morning. It was still dark and I could just feel that it was going to be freezing cold outside. To stop the ringing of the alarm I didn’t just push snooze, I turned it off fully expecting to stay under the warm covers.
I lay there thinking about all the reasons to stay in bed: I am sore and need to recover. I have a little cough, maybe I am getting sick. I’ve worked hard this week, I deserve a day off. No one will notice if I am there or not. I’m not hurting anyone by not going. It’s still dark out!
As you can see, there was no lack of excuses to stay in bed. Then it hit me. In the same amount of time it took for me to think up all of those excuses I could have stood up and got moving. Rather than getting up right then, I started thinking of rebutals to all the excuses I had just made for myself.
I am sore…. So what, if I don’t work through this I will continue to be sore everytime I do these workouts and the fact is that I am going to continue to be sore for a while since I am pushing myself again in wrestling.
I have a cough, maybe I am getting sick…. Maybe I just have a cough. If I get up I will know whether or not I am sick or not. If I don’t get up I will lay here and convince myself that I am sick and waste a whole day.
I deserve a day to rest…… I will get a day to rest on Sunday. I deserve to get up and push myself to improve a little more today!
No one will notice if I there or not….. Actually, my team mates will notice, they will be there putting the work in to become champions and it isn’t fair to them that I “need” a little more sleep. If I am not there the guy I would have worked out with won’t have a partner. Someone WILL notice!
I’m not hurting anyone by not going…. I am hurting someone, myself. I am also hurting my family who allowed me to come here to chase my dream. I am cheating them and myself by not doing what I came here to do!
Next time you are laying in bed making up reasons not to or don’t feel like going to work out, ask yourself if those reasons are really that good or if you should call them what they are. Bad EXCUSES!
Weight Loss Frustration
Posted by Matt Hoover in General on February 26th, 2009
I have been on a plateau for a few weeks now. I share my thoughts in this video..
