After last week, I feel a little bad to report that life isn’t a big bowl of cherries here at The Biggest Loser Resort today. It was a rough day and it all started with a genuine compliment from someone.
What are you talking about Matt? How can a compliment mess up your day? Let me explain. Last night I didn’t sleep well. I can tell I am losing weight and my body has changed a lot in the past week. I was actually worried that someone might say something today and someone did.
The reason I struggled with this is because for some reason when people tell me I am looking good or that they can tell I am losing weight, I almost always take a day off and go eat. The day turns into two and often turns into a week until I am back where I Started.
I don’t know why, but it seems like a positive comment from someone gives me permission to slack off. Rather than going out and feeding my face, I stopped into the office of one of the staff here at Fitness Ridge. As I told her what happened and how I reacted, I realized how out of line my thinking was. Rather than appreciating the fact that someone was recognizing my hard work, I was trying to make it harder on myself.
I set a goal for the day to stick to the nutrition plan and finish all my workouts. I did that. Now at the end of the day, I sit here and realize that if I am going to have long term and lasting results, I have got to change the way I see myself and more importantly the way I talk to myself.
Unless I am willing to accept praise and appreciate the work I am doing today I am always going to go right back to where I started. Things, especially weight loss, don’t have to always be hard. I have been making it hard on myself by feeling like I have to be in constant struggle in order to being doing a good job.
These thoughts have led me to struggle in other areas that I don’t need to struggle in as well. Today I finally recognized them and on top of that, I verbalized them. I made it through the day and feel that I will pick up where I left off last week tomorrow.
The focus this week. Change the way I talk to myself. I am worth it and don’t have to make things difficult on myself in order to acheive success. As one of the trainers said today, “Don’t let the only person standing in the way of your success be YOU!” Great advice at a great time.
See you tomorrow!
#1 by peppwr - June 21st, 2010 at 20:04
Hey Matt, you were amazing last week. You helped all of us up and down the hikes. You deserve all the postive feed back you get. I can’t say enough about how postive you are and what an amazing man you are. I am so glad that I got the chance to meet you and hike with you everyday. I will never forget that. Thank you for all the help and support. Have a great week and take all the wonderful comments you can get, you deserve them. I will be thinking of you guys this week and next. Looking forward to you update tomorrow.
#2 by emismahler - June 21st, 2010 at 22:22
Your posts this last week have been so awesome and inspiring and so right-on-the money for me in so many ways. Im realizing that I’ll use just about any excuse, even a compliment, to keep doing the same thing and expecting some different result. But I think you’ve hit on the key…loving yourself and treating yourself with the same respect that you treat others. Can’t wait to read more of your updates. Thank you!!
#3 by Connie - June 23rd, 2010 at 11:31
Hello, Matt, I agree that you deserve all the positive feedback you can get. As long as it is tasteful and serious, you should just say Thank You and really mean it. That was very kind of them to let you know that they recognized your hard work and efforts at the resort. I don’t have a problem with tastful comments, but I am still not handling those that attach the word sexy to me. As a Christian and an extremely sensitive and modest person, I throw the towel in every time someone calls me sexy. I dress modestly and am far from sexy but some people’s brains just think that way. For example, I took Bob’s advice from the BL and put a little fake flower in my hair on one side, because it made me like myself again. My hair is my best feature. Well, some shallow person, at church, asked me if I was trying to be sexy. I said no, but I was trying to like myself again as they learn to do on the BL show. He left, and I thought I addressed it tastefully, but I threw my diet again and will NOT wear the flower in my hair anymore. Back to square one where I don’t like myself again. Anyy suggestions for me to overcome this? Happens every time I try to feel good about myself. Thanks.
#4 by susan28 - June 24th, 2010 at 14:16
Matt,
I hear you brother.Every time I start to make progress towards my goal weight I end up sabotaging myself. I know the food choices I should make and the exercise I should do yet here I sit 50 pounds from where I want to be. You and Suzy continue to inspire me because you are real about how hard it is to maintain a healthy weight and keep at it. I am continuing to seek the direction I am to take with this now. Keep strong and remember it’s not what others say about us that is important ( be it good or bad) it is how we choose to live our lives and maintain this “temple” we have been given.