Researchers have diagnosed over 2000 known phobias or fears.  That is a huge number of fears that people struggle with everyday.  Here is the interesting part.  Guess how many of those 2000 diagnosed fears we are born with.  Think about it for a minute, the answer may surprise you.  Those same researchers have found that humans are born with 2, that is right, TWO innate fears.  The fear of loud noises and the fear of falling are the only fears that we are born with. The rest are learned.

So the question is, how do we learn to overcome our fears?  We have to do exactly that, learn to overcome fear.  Any habit that is learned can be unlearned.  Unfortunately, sometimes unlearning habits is harder than learning them.  Often it takes longer and come sometimes be physically uncomfortable but it can be done.

The thing about fear is that it must be faced.  We will never overcome fear by running from it.  The first step in overcoming a fear, or fears is to identify that fear.  Second we must acknowledge that fear and third we need to develop the steps we need to take to beat that fear.

Our minds are like a giant storage cabinet.  Inside those files are all of the experiences we have had throughout our lives.  When we face a situation we draw form those files to decide how we are going to react.  That is the key.  WE decide how we are going to react to a situation.  If we have operated out of fear most of our lives, we will more than react with fear.

In order to stop living out of fear we must reprogram and refile our reactions.  It starts with one act of courage.  It starts by decidng that we are going to react to situations differently than we have in the past.  After we react positively enough times those old negastive files will be replaced ant thrown out with the trash.  It will become easier and easier to react in the way that will move us forward toward where we want to go.

As I said earlier fear and old habits can be unlearned.  The process does take longer than initially learning something because we must first unlearn and then relearn the new habit.  The act of unlearning takes work.  We have to commit to our new thought patterns and choose to implement those new ideas at the appropriate times rather than reacting as we have in the past.

This can be difficult because even though we may know our habits haven’t been working they are familiar to us and therefore easier even if the results we have achieved have been less than ideal.  In essence, we may have to be uncomfortable as we begin facing our fears.  As we relearn our new habits, that uncomfortableness will subside and will become easier and more natural.

Today is a great time to start facing our fears and stop living out of that fear.  become fearless!

See you tomorrow!

Biggest Loser, Fear, Matt Hoover, mental, self talk

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